You buy clothes as a necessity. It’s illegal to walk around naked, unless you are in the specifically allowed areas of the world where you can wander around in the buff. Some people like to be barefoot all of the time, I know I do, but it’s just not possible to carry out day to day life with no clothes on your birthday suit.
The clothes you choose to wear say a lot about who you are as a person and what your personality is like, to the outside world. People judge others by what they look like without even realising they are doing it. They might assume that someone who wears bright colours could be bubbly, happy, outgoing and friendly etc, while someone who wears black could be sombre, unhappy, introverted and standoffish.
I am friends with several bikers and the rep they get based on what they look like is grossly unfair. The biking community is full to the brim of the nicest people you will ever meet. Simply basing their character on their looks is narrow minded and ridiculous.
We’re not born to be the same, so why do we wear the same style of clothing? Currently mustard yellow is this seasons ‘must have.’ But why is it? it’s not even a nice colour, it never has been. Do people who wear this particular shade of yellow actually like it, or are they simply wearing it because it’s ‘in’? There’s only so many colours in the rainbow, so what happens when the fashion designers (and who made them all knowledgeable about fashion anyway?) run out of colours? Do they have a list, like maybe 1980 was illuminous green for summer but pastel pink was the autumn trend, 1981 was maybe yellow for summer and green for autumn? and then they go through the colour list one by year each year, and the designer is like;
”Stella, we can’t use khaki green this year because it was in the cammo range last year, AND in 2010, 2004 and 1996, dammit woman do you not know what this will do to the tiny fools who spend a fortune on fashion?’
Well they probably don’t sound like that, do they? But my point is, wear what you like, not what some famous stranger is telling you to wear.
There’s more problems in the world than what someone is wearing.
Why do women (mainly) wear the same items, or colour? For the last few weeks I have been paying attention to what the school run mums wear. I saw 4 women all wearing the exact same jumper, same colour, on the same day. Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t follow fashion, I don’t understand it. But, if I was accidentally wearing the same outfit as another woman I was in the vicinity of, or working with, I’d be slightly mortified. Then I’d be like, ‘yeah, I wear it better.’
Why do people want to look the same as everyone else? Why pay £50 for a jumper that Sally, Vicky and Mandy down the road are also wearing, when you can go and buy anything you wanted instead?
I have a friend who wears name brand trainers exclusively. He’d rather be dead than wear anything from Shoe Zone (sorry) or other such brands, when I asked him why he told me a story;
”As a kid my mother used to put me in charity shop clothing, but always decent trainers. She believed that the more they cost the better they were for your feet. She used to say ‘Your feet carry you for all of your life, so look after them.’ and so now I wear decent trainers, to look after my feet.”
His story makes perfect sense. His fashion choices stem from childhood and what he was taught growing up.
My fashion sense now is based around comfort, cost and colour, but when I was a child, my mother couldn’t afford clothing, let alone charity shop items. I wore hand-me-downs from my older female cousin, which were then passed to my sister. I had very little choice in what I wore up to the day I got a job and left home. Now my wardrobe is full of colour and black tones. I love my pretty spaghetti strap lacy black top as much as I love my cartoon script flared multicoloured top. The lack of choice as a child has shaped what I wear now, I simply don’t care. If I like it, I wear it. It’s me who is spending my money on it, me who is wearing it on my body, nobody else has to like it at all, and yes I shop in charity and buy new where I have to.
I recently acquired a boyfriend, (long story for another blog.) When I met him he looked very sexy dressed in black, cargo trousers, black t’shirt and a hoodie with skulls on it. He’s got visible tattoos on his neck & hands and piercings in his face, dark hair etc. I assumed that he was a metaller/rocker like myself. So when he opened the bag of clothes he’d brought to mine and I saw a lot of ‘not black’ I was a bit miffed and surprised. I was a tad dismayed to find out that he likes brightly coloured striped shirts, and has a two-tone purple/blue nylon shirt that the 80’s called to claim back. But, it’s his choice. He likes them so he wears them. I still fancy the pants off of him regardless of what he’s wearing. But it proves that you can’t judge a book by the cover. I made the silly assumption that because of what I saw that first time, that’s what he wears all the time. But, much like myself, he has a varied taste. Why wouldn’t he have?
There’s far too much clothing ending up in landfill as it is, not enough is recycled. Charity shops get the main bulk of it, but there’s stuff even they can’t sell. I know the vast majority of people believe (wrongly) that charity clothing is all old, outdated, dirty, smelly, tatty shit. That’s simply not true. I have worked in charity shops, I’ve seen all sides of the inner workings and the outside image they purvey. There’s rules and such that the staff and the organisations have to stick to regardless. Charity shops don’t have the means to wash anything. (They can steam certain items to freshen them up, get wrinkles out of silk blouses etc) but if they open a bag that’s got dirt or faeces in it, that whole bag goes straight into the bin. Charity shop workers are volunteers, they don’t get paid. Some of the staff may offer to wash items at home at an out of pocket cost, but it’s not a thing that is generally done. If there’s a £200 Lacoste jumper that’s needing a wash then it’ll get one, but a £10 pair of trousers, that’ll go in the bin.
Far too many people won’t shop charity nowadays for fear of bullying, or ridicule for wearing something that’s not ‘trendy.’ If you’re not wearing the same colour as the whole world that makes you a target for horrible things to happen. That’s outrageous. Why should we have to be a sheep, wear the same, be the same as everyone else to fit in, to not get ridiculed, or bullied, when we’re born to stand out?
We as a society should be praising the different, the alternative. We should be wanting to look like ourselves and not everyone else. I’m me, I’m not you or Janet, or Cindy or Joe Blogs down the road, so why on earth would I want to wear the same clothing as them?
Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you! – Dr Suess.