”Aunty Jackie’s Sister’s Brother’s boy told me that you told Cliff that Sandy had slept with Mark, she sent me a pm.” Sound familiar?
Sadly this is happening all over the world. Instances where someone tells someone something and it’s believed with out any scrap of evidence are rife on FB. So many times I see/hear/read ”I saw it on FB.” so bloody what? I see the sky is grey, it’s likely going to rain, I don’t go telling people it’s 100% going to rain. It might not rain. Just because you see it, doesn’t mean it’s going to happen. Just because Aunty Jackie told you that she’d heard it, doesn’t mean she actually did. Words have power. People get things wrong. Find out for yourself before you go thumping Cliff for breaking a confidence.
What I can’t comprehend is why people are so quick to believe everything they read on FB. ”Instant weight loss, lose 14st in a week” adverts and ”ladies wear this tight spanx body control monstrosity under your clothes to hide your rolls, because nobody wants to see what a real woman’s body looks like” adverts. Women across the globe are fighting to end photoshop, to not have to hide their bodies on the beach, and to be valued for who and what they are, not to be told that they need to lose weight fast or wear hideous uncomfortable ‘fat hiding’ underwear to ‘look good.’ It beggars belief after all of the strides we’ve made in the real world, that we go backwards on FB.
Just because it’s on fb, does not make it true. Just because someone says they saw it/did it/read it on FB does not mean they did. People lie all of the time. People like to stir the pot to piss people off, to try to split up relationships. Ex spouses use fb to gain sympathy on their life and spout nonsense about their exes, just for likes and comments on a status (all saying ”you ok hun?) without any thought to the person it’s involving.
FB has billions of users. You may have hundreds of friends on your profile, how many of those people do you actually know in real life that you can 100% call an actual friend? You have no idea what these people do with the information you post up. It’s been proven that pictures of kids and woman and even random things have been copied and used elsewhere without permission by strangers. I recently was the victim of that very thing when something I posted up in a closed group was copied onto twitter, which was then poached by Buzzfeed, and used in one of their lists. It made me feel sick and it was a harmless picture of some wires I couldn’t identify. Imagine if that was your kids pictures?
If you don’t want the whole world knowing your life’s issues, DON’T POST IT ON FB! Yes, it’s really that simple. No, you are not going to have a heart attack and die if you don’t tell us that you’re eating Macdonald’s, or that you just got your nails done. Nobody really cares anyway. The Thumbs up like symbol is easy to click and people blindly do so, without paying much attention. Vague status updates like ”at the hospital” or ”OMG what a mug I am” etc are fishing for comments and drama. It’s attention seeking at its highest form, with potentially hundreds of ‘friends’ on your profile you’ll of course get the predictable ”What’s up hun?” or similar replies which are then usually met, equally as predictably with ”I’ll pm ya hun.” WHY? Just why? What’s the point of doing that, someone please tell me why putting vague status updates and then not explaining it is ever a good thing? And then you get those who are told to mind their own business when they ask what’s wrong… I mean.. come on now. You’re posting your life on social media and then getting nasty when people comment on it? Grow up.
Those people who post daily itineraries like ”I’ve got a coffee, then I’m going to watch tv and maybe I’ll do dinner later” are ridiculous. Nobody cares Clair. Nobody actually gives a flying whatsit what you have to do today, do you know why? Because they also have a life to lead and they aren’t posting about it on FB.
Don’t get me started on the grammar and punctuation on some of the posts I see on my feed. It’s called spellchecker, use it. If you can’t spell or string a sentence together properly go back to school to learn. Dyslexia is common, it wasn’t diagnosed back in the day, so go and sort it out.
If you buy and sell on fb then good luck. How do you know if what you’re buying is stolen or not? Pictures often don’t do the item justice. Pictures certainly don’t show you if it’s working as it should or weather there’s hidden damage. You have to trust a complete stranger on the internet. Then you have to go to them to collect it, or have them know your address to deliver it. It’s so dangerous. Thankfully I’ve not heard of anything untoward happening, but it’s only a matter of time.
FB is not life. You can live without it. It is perfectly reasonable adult behaviour to check your facts first before you believe what you read on FB, or you believe what someones told you via a pm, where you can’t see their facial expressions to decide if it’s lies or not. It’s easy to write what you please behind a keyboard, I’m doing it right now! but this isn’t FB, it’s my blog and I can say what I like here.
FB is good for some things. It’s brought families together. It’s helped to find missing people. It helps distant family stay in contact. It helps to arrange events with people who lives hundreds of miles apart. But please don’t rely on it. One day it won’t be around. Just look at where Myspace is now…